She appeared on our television twelve years ago. And since 2008, the program "Let's get married!" became her second home. the site, together with Vasilisa, recalls how those years passed

Vasilisa Volodina

- You not only lead the program, but also practice astrology. What is closer to you?

Of course, practice is closer. There is more astrology in my life than television. These are two different kinds of work. Television is a tribune that helps my professional mission: to popularize the science of astrology. I consider it important for myself to tell people about what real astrology is. To show the astrologer as he is - a modern, adequate person, and not a funny bearded man in a cap with stars, as was perceived until a certain time. But in addition to this, the program also carries a lot of interesting and useful things for me. For example, the opportunity to feel like a beauty, which is given by cool make-up artists and stylists. For ten years of my life on the air, I have already got used to it. It is a great feminine pleasure to see yourself beautiful in the frame, to hear how everyone likes you. A great added bonus.

- Vasilisa is your pseudonym, isn't it?

Yes. Once in the astrological world, the pseudonym was the norm, a kind of good form. Well, some ridiculous factors also contributed to this. In the early 2000s, I was actively writing for the press. Now there are about half a thousand materials. And for some time she signed her name. And then one day I had to write a research article on the topic of manic psychiatric manifestations. And when I wrote this material, my husband categorically forbade me to sign with my real name and surname. For my own good. What if a bad wave rises? What if people with disabilities read this article and react incorrectly ... Then, in fact, I came up with a pseudonym. And she took the name of Volodin - covered herself with the name of my husband.

Photo: personal archive of Vasilisa Volodina

- They say that from an astrological point of view you were waiting for motherhood for about three years. It's true?

Yes, we were indeed planning a second child, but there was a three-year period that I deliberately missed.

- Wasn't it scary to give birth at forty?

Not at all. My personal experience giving birth at forty was much more comfortable than at 27. This is my second child, you know? And, in particular, that is why we, with the birth of Vyacheslav, approached the issue so seriously. Although, of course, I had to endure pressure from relatives, like "when will you give birth to a second?" And, of course, no one is alien to human fears. But I understood from my work experience that there is a time when there is no need to rush. And so far I have never regretted it.

Photo: personal archive of Vasilisa Volodina

You once said that you would not argue with those who say that pregnant women are less intelligent. Is this objectively so? And how was it with you?

Yes this is true. This is physiology. Why argue with that? How to argue with who is stronger - a man or a woman? The man is physically stronger. It's the same with a pregnant woman. She really starts to think worse. Because the body's resources are spent on something else. I continued to work practically until the very birth. And somewhere in the third month she resumed consultations. But everyday reactions of a pregnant woman are really different - more often cups fall out of hands, she becomes more absent-minded, more sleepy. At least my personal experience and the experience of those I know speaks to this.

- Children are not an obstacle in the profession of TV presenter and astrologer?

Children are not a hindrance at all. Children are happiness. Here the question is, for whom and what is most important. For me, children are the main thing initially. And the profession is secondary to the family and children. Working for money is, first of all, my means of survival in the world, the opportunity to feed my children. And secondly, this is the field of my personal curiosity and interest. My development, my realization. My passion, which is also paid for. That all these factors come together is just a miraculous intersection of circumstances.

Photo: personal archive of Vasilisa Volodina

The eldest daughter Victoria, as you said, had a transitional crisis almost from childhood. What today?

This state has already left us two years ago. And I confirmed the opinion of one well-known psychologist, who says that adolescence is often more difficult for girls than for boys. Because girls are more emotional, they are restless natures. Now Vika has grown a lot and changed, she has become completely different. I was able to express myself more fully. In general, teenagers find it difficult to live. Fever them, the poor, and the whole family with them. It's good when it all ends.

- What is Victoria interested in today?

Now basketball. But obviously this will not be her profession. Unfortunately, the modern education system forces the child to get involved in the lessons in the main. And no matter how they try to move towards subject specialization, this does not force one to get carried away with subjects. The program is not very rational. Until the summer of last year, she was fond of passing brilliantly the final certification. Now she is carried away, like any student of the tenth grade, in order to prepare and pass exams by July. As awful as it sounds. And for herself, she is fond of (in secret) card fortune-telling and makes layouts already at a decent level. Vika asks me to start teaching her astrology already last year... And I, due to lack of time, try to get rid of this question. I suggest she read some books, something and send somewhere, but in fact, internally, of course, I understand: if you study, you need to do it systematically. And I'm afraid that I will not have enough time and energy. This is necessary, but my mother has not yet gathered herself.

Photo: personal archive of Vasilisa Volodina

- And what about the dynasty?

I was never forced. Parents did not choke in the direction of any particular profession. Therefore, I also have no desire to force children to follow my path. But of course that would be great.

- You returned to the shooting a few months after the birth of your second child. Who looked after the children?

If you give free rein to my beloved colleagues, they would like me to give birth right in the studio so that they could make a wonderful plot. But I didn’t give them such an opportunity. But who looked after the children? The eldest daughter was already thirteen years old when Slava was born. Filming takes place several days a month. And to say that I went to the shooting like a war for six months and the children did not see me - no, that was not the case. Yes, you're breaking free for a few days. Glory was with me at that moment. Vika is at her grandmother's. All the other 24 days a month, I was still there.

- It's no secret that over the ten years of the program's existence, millions have loved you. Do you feel this love?

I feel it. I am lucky in this sense. I get some kind of positive attention. They greet me, meet with a smile, warmly welcome. Sometimes attention breaks personal boundaries a little more than you want. For many years I have been painfully getting used to it (it is not always desirable that at the moment when you sit in a restaurant or theater, someone unknown to you in a familiar slap on the shoulder or tried to kiss sugar lips). There are some costs to fame. But in general, I understand why. The reason is still a warm attitude. And it's nice.

- What is your relationship outside the studio?

Quite warm. We may not meet, we do not drink tea (although sometimes it happens). But this is definitely a pleasant relationship. Almost like those of distant relatives: you understand that they are somewhere, maybe even if you don't see them regularly, but still, the mere fact of their existence is good. During these ten years, it seems to me, our mutual feelings have grown stronger. No one developed a persistent aversion or overwhelming fatigue for each other. We are a permanent professional communication environment for each other. Several days a month, but ten years.

At the end of the year, the famous astrologer and TV presenter is preparing to become a mother for the second time. “TN” is the first to whom Vasilisa openly told about her feelings and emotions about this.

You're right. My husband and I wanted a second child and for the last three years have been waiting for the most favorable period for pregnancy. In my practice, I have seen enough of various unfortunate stories and am convinced that pregnancy is necessary to plan. True, I am sincerely surprised by the clients who turn to the astrologer with a request to tell them when they could have a child who would become a successful businessman, or to make a boy, because the husband wants an heir ... At the same time, the future mother forgets one important thing. First you need to take out a healthy baby. I will say more, I already had not the easiest experience associated with pregnancy. Then we didn’t plan anything thoroughly, up to a month. I just knew that at the age of 27 I would have a child. Sergei and I had been together for seven years by that time, and we were morally mature enough to become parents. But physically, Vika's pregnancy was more difficult for me than I would like, it took some time to put my health in order. So when I told my parents that we were expecting a replenishment, they did not jump to the ceiling with delight. They are certainly happy, but there is also anxiety for me. Probably, they, as representatives of the older generation, think that giving birth at 40 is just a nightmare. But my mother-in-law is a fighting man! She gave birth to her third child when she was already over forty, and nothing can frighten her! Sergei, of course, is happy too. He is very much expecting a second child, and I, as a wife and a woman who loves him, have no reason to refuse him this. As soon as she felt something, she immediately told him. And he: "Wait, why are you drawing conclusions so early ..." I was cautious, afraid to frighten off. But it turned out that everything is so!

Vika, when she found out that we had a replenishment coming, even chided me and her dad: “Well, finally! I already thought that I would never wait "(In the photo with my daughter Victoria)

I was very happy. She even chided me and my dad: “Well, finally! I already thought that I would never wait. " Although I believe that you cannot be guided by the requests of children to give birth to a brother or sister. In the same way, they ask their parents for a parrot or a dog. What happened next? To reproach, they say, you wanted so much, but now you are too lazy to take a walk or clean the cage? Do you know the anecdote: a pessimist is a well-informed optimist? Sergei and I are a family of well-informed optimists. And we perfectly understand how difficult it is to raise a child.

Moreover, I believe that a woman should have as many children as she can feed herself. And although my beloved husband is in the next room, we have for many years (pah-pah-pah, so as not to jinx it!) An ideal marriage - this is my clear position. I am aware that if suddenly, for various reasons, you are left alone with the children, you have to pull everything out on yourself. It's not that I'm preparing for this, I just don't forget about it.

In general, in terms of my internal attitudes, I'm definitely not a mother with many children. After all, the child wants to give so much! Although, no doubt, children are happiness. I remember how after the birth of Vicki I fell into a state of euphoria. And I can say that to this day my daughter is the center of our universe with Sergei. Everything revolves around her in one way or another. For 13 years, we only once went on vacation to the sea without Vika, and that was because the vacation was in winter, and she was very small, and we were afraid to drastically change the climate. And when six years ago the program “Let's get married!” Appeared in my life, there was catastrophically no time for a family and a child. Sergei and I sounded the alarm. We discussed the situation and decided that my husband would become my director (before that he worked quite successfully in the field of logistics), that is, in fact, he would head our family business. Since then, he has been involved in my business, for which I am very grateful to him. This was probably the only correct decision. I can’t even imagine who else could arrange work in this way without infringing on the interests of the family. For example, although I am a very busy mother, I teach lessons with my daughter every day. The modern school curriculum is so complicated that I just don't see another option.

The husband wants to be present at the birth. But for me, not everything is so simple. On the one hand, I am grateful that he decided to share the difficulties with me, and on the other, I am worried about him (In the photo with my husband Sergey)

Back in January, my husband said: since we are going to have a child, come on, mother, to slow down. And in fact, it has halved my workload (first of all, it affected personal consultations, which are planned many months in advance). In addition, this year, just like a kiss from the sky, for the first time since working on Channel One, our program was allowed to rest for two whole summer months (before that there were breaks for a maximum of a couple of weeks). We were able to relax at the dacha and go to Spain to the sea.

And when you returned from vacation, you probably stunned your colleagues with the news ... For six years, you, Larisa Guzeeva and Rosa Syabitova worked well on the air and here you announce that you are going on maternity leave. Did the panic start on the ship?

Firstly, as a decent person, I warned the management quite early. As for my colleagues, back in January I once said that this year my husband and I would like to have a second child.

I will disappear from the screens in November, and I plan to return in the spring (In the photo with Larisa Guzeeva and Rosa Syabitova on the set of the program “Let's get married!”)

Escapades about the problems of forty-year-old women amuse me more! (Smiles.) You know, there is a feeling that I'm in this moment I am in a protective cocoon, and such attacks from the side do not touch me at all. But you become very emotionally dependent on your loved ones. It seems to me that no pregnancy is complete without a certain amount of tears shed future mother... A little something - and eyes in a wet place. I became forgetful, a little awkward. Especially me, as an energetic person, is irritated by the loss of working capacity - three times, no less. But there is so much to do, so many issues to be resolved. For example, a couple of months ago, my husband and I were sure that our child would be born in France. The fact is that last time the domestic medicine did not make me happy. But now we are inclined to believe that we will still remain in Russia. I am a fighter by nature, and if necessary, I will give birth in any conditions, but I would like more comfort.

- Why did you change your mind about going abroad?

As it turned out, to give birth abroad, you need to have not so much a lot of money as a lot of time! First, you must leave in advance. And then, after the birth of the child, to stand in line at the consulate in order to register the baby, obtain citizenship for him and enter it in the passport. And since all these bureaucratic procedures are likely to be associated with new year holidays, then we, according to the most conservative estimates, risk hanging there for three months. To be honest, this is an unaffordable luxury for me.

I believe that a woman should have as many children as she can feed herself. And although my husband and I have had a perfect marriage for many years, this is my clear position

Yes, he does. When I gave birth to Vika, so that dad was allowed into the maternity ward, it was required to pass a lot of tests, to take some courses. It's easier with that now. It is enough to agree with the doctor. Sergei made a decision, but not everything is so simple for me. I love my husband very much and I don't know what impression this physiological process will make on him. One of our acquaintance's hands were shaking so much that when he was entrusted with cutting the umbilical cord, he dropped the scissors on the baby ... In general, mixed feelings prevail. On the one hand, I am grateful that he decided to share difficulties with me and be close, and on the other, I am worried about him. But some women think like: “Well, I must suffer alone? Let him suffer too! "

So you refuse to torture your loved ones! But what about the obligatory whims of pregnant women: I want one, the other? Didn't you express any special wishes?

It's like in a joke: "Hearing his wife's request for fried strawberries, the father of seven children fainted." Vika was also actively interested in me: "Mommy, do you want something exotic?" - "No, - I answer, - I don't want to at all."

But one day I gave up and said I wanted fried bananas. There is such a dish of Indian cuisine - you dip bananas in sweet kefir batter and fry in a frying pan. I once tried them in a restaurant, but then I decided to make it myself. And what do you think? This has become my favorite dessert at my home. Not so much me as they got hooked! Well, my daughter also jokingly reproaches me for having deprived my family of barbecue for the whole summer. For a short period of time, the smell of coffee, smoked and fried meat killed me on the spot. Somehow the neighbors in the country decided to make a barbecue, so I thought I would not survive.

But in general, the second pregnancy is better tolerated than the first. There is no anxiety that was when I waited for Vika. I felt that with her appearance it would begin completely new stage in life. And the unknown is always scary. I remember, on this basis, in the last two months before giving birth, I became terribly jealous. As it was in the evening, I could not find a place for myself. I sit and think: “Well, where is my husband? What is he doing now? " And I wondered on the cards - nothing helped. Although he flew out of work like a bullet, jumped into the car, on the gas - and at 18:15 he was at home like a bayonet, it still seemed to me that something was wrong. And she understood that everything was nonsense, she laughed at herself, but she could not do anything with her emotions. Fortunately, this is not the case now.

I think that our life with the advent of a new family member should not change dramatically. And at least it will be easier than the first time. And Sergey is next to me to help, and my mother now lives not far from us, and, in the end, we can afford a nanny. Although, of course, I am aware that small children are a hassle. And we will get ours. We even have a joke on this topic in our family. We love Woodhouse's stories about Jeeves and Wooster and enjoy watching the series based on these books. So, in one series, an avant-garde artist is ordered a portrait of a baby - the son of a rich man. What he portrayed there is not clear until the end of the film, the viewer sees only the angry faces of people who are looking at the picture. And in the finale, the canvas, which, by the way, is called "Quiet Life with Eggplant", appears at the exhibition, it is taken in close-up, and we see that there is drawn a screaming child, turned blue from a cry. Now we often recall this episode and laugh that, apparently, we will soon all have a quiet life with eggplant.

I endure the second pregnancy better than the first ... There is no anxiety that was when I was waiting for Vika. And then she understood that everything was nonsense, she laughed at herself, but she could not do anything with her emotions. Fortunately, there is no such thing now

We are redoing a lot of things - and the walls will be different, and we ordered light furniture. A very soft carpet was laid on the floor - it will smooth out the atmosphere of efficiency. But you know, I would still like to leave a share of seriousness. I have seen enough lately on painted - in the suns, boats, sheep - lockers and cribs and realized that I don't like such children's kitsch at all. I would like the child to grow up surrounded by truly beautiful things. And in general, it seems to me that I will immediately treat him as a full-fledged person, as a person, without all these endless lisps. Although how can you guess. (Smiles.)

You said that for 13 years Vika got used to being the center of your family, and here such changes are coming. Do you morally prepare your daughter for them, talk with her on this topic?

To be honest, no. I am sure that she will still have enough attention from her relatives. In addition, with such a difference in age, conflicts that arise between the older and younger children on the basis of jealousy, rivalry, I think, do not threaten us. Listen, when the baby shows the first signs of awareness, at three or four years old, Vika will already be 16-17 years old, the end of school, ahead new life... Well, now my daughter is in full swing at a transitional age, and, of course, I do not forget about it. Sergey and I are strict parents and try to keep our finger on the pulse. Our Vikusha is a cheerful person, everything goes into laughter, although it would be possible to laugh less. But, in fact, she has always been like that. I am impressed by her self-irony. A quality that not all adults have. She can easily joke about her problems and even romantic attachments. It is very cute.

Once you said that before you started working in the Let's Get Married! Project, you had a better opinion of modern men ... In this regard, is it not anxious for your daughter's future? Where to look for worthy suitors?

Alarming. To be honest, I try, as I can, to correct her character so that it would be easier for her later. In Victoria's life, falling in love with men from afar is possible, and for me this is a rather painful moment. I'm afraid to even think that Vika will marry a foreigner and move abroad. How to live apart from my daughter, I can't imagine. I myself never wanted to leave, I am a very "local" person. It is important for me to speak Russian, to hear Russian on the streets. Then, emigration implies isolation from loved ones, from parents with whom we are strongly connected ... Fortunately, in Vika's case, a foreign husband is not a mandatory sentence, there are alternative options. And I will try to delicately guide her in the right direction. Although personal life is a complicated thing. Is it possible to get in the way of happiness? Therefore, I will answer your question like this: in an amicable way, suitors should be sought abroad, but I myself am not delighted with this idea.

Vasilisa, it is known that astrologers attach great importance to a person's name. What are you guided by in this topical issue for many young parents?

The name should be chosen only when the child is already born. In some countries this a big problem, they are required to name the child on the first day. But this is easier for us, we have time to think it over carefully. The fact is that the name should fit correctly on the newborn's horoscope - to strengthen some character traits, to weaken some. And here it is important to know the time of birth down to the minute. Of course, it is impossible to radically change fate, but to correct something is quite. Therefore, my husband and I make a list of names, and then we will choose from it.

- Also, probably, you are very tempted to choose a more successful birthday?

I admit, great. We have a few beautiful dates in mind that we'd love to get on. But ... most likely it will not work, it would be somehow too fabulous. I want everything to go naturally. At the beginning of our conversation, we touched on the topic of pregnancy planning. What depended on us, my husband and I did, and then - God's will for everything. Let the child be born, and then we will deal with his qualities. I am in this question stoic. And I know very well what difficulties await children who were born in late 2014 - early 2015. They will have a hectic life: political conflicts, perhaps military ones, are likely ... But do you remember the calm era in Russia over the last thousand years? So you can relax about this.

Born: April 16, 1974 in Moscow

A family: husband - Sergey, runs a family business; daughter - Victoria (13 years old)

Education: graduated from the Faculty of Economics of the State Academy of Management, Moscow Academy of Astrology

Career: since 1994 he has been practicing astrology. In 2006 she hosted the Starry Night with Vasilisa Volodina program (Capital), since 2008 she has been co-host of the Let's Get Married! (First channel). Author of books: “Astrology of seduction. Keys to a Man's Heart ”,“ Love Forecast for 2014 ”,“ Love Forecast for 2015 ”. Laureate of the "Electronic Letter-2012" award in the "Discovery of the Year" nomination for the book "Astrology of Seduction. Keys to a man's heart "

Elizaveta GOLDEN, TELEWEEK
Photo by Konstantin SOROKIN

- There are so many successful young people around who cannot arrange their personal life. What is the reason for this?

- Loneliness is a sign of our era. Back in the 1960s, alas, the stars settled over our mortal world in such a way that more people were born potentially unhappy in love. But already in 2010 the situation, fortunately, began to change. Today's babies will definitely be a little happier in their personal lives than their parents and grandparents. Such a relatively harmonious state will come only when they all grow up - by 2030, not earlier.

- That is, those who do not have a personal life can blame the stars for everything?

- The stars do not cause our troubles, they only show them! Each single person has a certain, often invisible to himself, problem that does not allow getting married or getting married. If you can't build a relationship, the most important thing is to figure it out, to understand what is stopping you. Someone will not have to dig into themselves for a long time - they just need to look in the mirror. Alas, men choose with their eyes! For them, the beauty of a woman comes first, as well as second and third. All other virtues follow. And problems with appearance are found in women much more often than they say about it. And if a person cannot see them himself, then it is so important that there are sensitive and loyal friends nearby who will be able to advise. Sometimes hearing the truth is not very pleasant, but true friendship is about helping each other. When you endlessly pity a friend who cannot find a loved one in any way, and give her false compliments, this supports the person, but does not develop. If she rushes about, trying to figure out herself, do not be afraid to hint carefully, for example: "This dress is a little old-fashioned, let's change your style" or "Let's go to the gym together since Monday!" After all, how can a girl show her wonderful qualities of a hostess if she does not initially cause a man's attraction? Appearance is our tool, it is she who makes the first impression.

- But men have different ideas about beauty?

- Public opinion is now being formed by magazine standards - you can't get away from this. But to different men you need a different energy, an emotional flow that comes from a woman. I have written a whole book about this - “The Astrology of Seduction. Keys to a man's heart. " Everyone has their own type of woman. Someone likes daring, active, initiative "hostesses". Someone dreams of meeting a quiet and docile "mother". Astrology helps you understand what type of woman your chosen one is waiting for, and try to meet his standards. But, no matter what type of internal energy a man reacts to, he always wants to see a beauty nearby - this is nature!

- It's hard to be a woman. It turns out that you need to adjust all the time, please.

- The bitter truth: men often have no motive, no reason to strive to tie the knot. It is with us women the biological clock is ticking. And the man in modern world up to 70 years old he feels himself a "good fellow" who is looking for a "red girl", and everything lies at his feet. But attention! As soon as a woman, in principle, asks the question: "Why should I adjust, but not him?" - consider that she has already taken her step towards loneliness. Any person needs to realize: if you want a long and lasting relationship, then staying the way you are by nature will not work.

Everyone can become happy only by working on themselves. But due to objective circumstances, a woman has to do this more often and more. There is such an ancient concept of medicine and astrology as "humor" - these are different types of basic energy on which a person lives. There are only four of them - according to the number of astrological elements. When an imbalance of these forces arises, we lose the feeling of happiness. But everything is in our hands: the energies in ourselves can be balanced.

For example, if you are an exhausted workaholic who cannot escape the “work-home” circle, then the energy of the earth prevails in you. Bring more air energy to life! How? Surround yourself with friends! Get out on trips more often and change your usual routes to new ones. No matter how tired you feel, on weekends go to the cinema, cafe, restaurant.

Wards of the air element, who communicate a lot, but cannot find a loved one, on the contrary, you need to add a little earth. Observe the daily routine, be more often alone with your thoughts, take on additional responsibilities - believe me, it will work!

Another opposite: fire is water. A girl who often conflicts with others, is always in confrontation with the world, must learn to “extinguish” her energy. She needs to literally force herself to listen to the interlocutor, to restrain herself in some controversial situations, that is, add the element of water. A depressed princess forever suffering from unrequited love, you need to drive to play sports or entrust her with affairs that involve a minimum of emotions.

- You can, of course, adjust to your partner. But, they say, you can't stand on tiptoe for a long time.

- And who said that adjusting means dissolving and bending under a person? Men don't need you to stand on your tiptoes at all. To adjust is to give what he expects. I believe that my book helps to find out not only what kind of woman a man needs, but also to understand whether you can match this. You are not able to satisfy all the whims of a man. A windy girl is unlikely to get along for a long time with a couch potato, in whose horoscope the water Venus. Why would both of them suffer? Senka should have a hat. As I said, any person must grow, work on himself. And by the way, these changes may not be global, but point-like. It's just important to know what exactly you should change. This is the hardest part. It is not necessary to approach yourself from the side of shortcomings, you can do it differently. Ask yourself the question: what can I give a man? And understand who may need it. For example, a very smart woman needs to know where and by what person her intellect will be in demand.

Those who are going to get married at 18-20 years old should remember that a person under 24 years old, until the second cycle of Jupiter burst out, is actively changing. Just as it is impossible for a 10-year-old girl to tell how good she will be at 20 or 30, it is impossible to understand what kind of man will grow from an 18-year-old boy. Of course, everything depends on the person. There are unique people who, at the age of 20, are ready to bear responsibility for the family and at the same time to realize themselves in the profession. And someone under 30 wants to take a walk. And there are those who, in principle, are not able to build a strong pair with anyone.

- And how to be like that?

- This is destiny. There's nothing you can do about it. Just imagine that a white tiger cub was born. How should he be? Learn to accept your position, understand that you are different from others, and build your life in a different way. But, fortunately, cases of incorrigible loneliness are rare. Still, man is a paired animal.

- Now everything more women began to get married after 30 years. What is the reason for this?

- Social maturation now comes later. The country has changed - the requirements for the partner have changed. Earlier, at 22, a person graduated from a university and became a young specialist, with a solid salary and the prospect of getting a room from the enterprise. And now it's a lottery, everything is unpredictable. You also need to prove that you are worth something and can.

- Are there representatives of certain zodiac signs who are more successful in love than others?

- A person's personal life does not depend on the sign of the zodiac, but on the location of all the planets of his horoscope. They are determined literally by the minutes of birth. Venus, Mars, the Moon and… much more are also important! Even if you read in a book that, for example, all Aquarians strive for freedom, you should not believe it. Likewise, not all Taurus are wonderful, stable men who can be relied on. You cannot rate yourself as a loser or lucky in love based on one zodiac sign.

- Nevertheless, in the program, you always make fun of the heroes - the Cancer men. If you listen to you, do they have any chance of finding their perfect partner?

- I have no prejudice against Cancers. (Laughs.) These are jokes in our team that the viewer does not always understand. We joked once. I don't like lilies in bouquets. They smell disgustingly harsh, and in the closed space of the studio they instantly start to have a headache. I once complained to Larissa: "Why are these stuffy lilies dragging us?" And once again the hero comes with a bouquet of lilies, and Larissa, smiling, says: "Here are Vasya's favorite flowers." We laughed. And then the terrible began: this shot entered the program, and they began to fill me up with lilies. Then I had to officially declare that I cannot stand them.

- Russian girls often seek personal happiness abroad. Do they have a chance to successfully get a job there? Will the difference in mentality be affected?

- Globalization is marching around the world! Have you noticed that it has become less interesting to travel around the countries - everything is the same everywhere? So the difference in mentality is also blurred a little. If she didn't grow up in the Siberian hinterland, and he is not a successful Harvard student, then there is no reason to worry. On the other hand, even within our country, the transition from one social group to another is difficult. A girl from near Tobolsk is unlikely to marry a young man with a MGIMO diploma and whose dad has some kind of huge holdings within Rublevka.

- So, in the program "Let's get married!" women regularly come who want to get married just to improve their financial situation ...

- Yes, we do have such heroes. I am annoyed by the mercantile approach to relationships. I have not seen successful alliances that start with money. Only love will save the world. Sometimes parents come to me for consultations, who ask about their 14-15-year-old daughter: “She has Gosha in her class, good boy, good family. Can they have something in the future? " Even at school, they try to "snatch" their child without asking his opinion, without letting him see life. Of course, then children also live by the same principle - to sell themselves at a higher price.

- Vasilisa, and according to the horoscope you can determine which of the parents the child will look like?

- According to the horoscope, this can be clearly understood. It happens that you look natal chart baby - you see that he will be a copy of mom in character, but outwardly looks like dad. But if a child was born using a caesarean section, he, in principle, is less like his parents - even a special astrological study was conducted on this topic. So if, for example, in a dynasty of doctors, a child is not born naturally, then he is unlikely to want to continue the work of his ancestors. He will have his own interests. Parents of "Caesar" also need to prepare for the fact that there will be more misunderstandings in relations with children. For those who cannot do without surgery, I would advise you to choose an astrologically successful day for it.

- How are you getting on with your 11-year-old daughter?

- First thought: "Great!" Second: "Are children perfect?" Our Victoria - bright representative fire element, like mom. And in her horoscope there are several planets in the sign of Virgo, like the Pope. So we got a hybrid - like Michurin's.

- Does astrology help in raising a child? Can the stars tell you what talents you need to develop in it?

- I believe that the child should receive the most versatile development. Knowing that your child has a penchant for mathematics, you should not deprive him of embroidery or swimming. Remember Kozma Prutkov: "A specialist is like a gumboil: his completeness is one-sided." You don't want your child to have an intellectual flux, do you?

- How does your husband react to the fact that the heroes of the program often literally shower you with compliments. Not jealous?

- The husband is not jealous, proud. Believes that he pulled out a lucky ticket. He said this to me and to others.

- Have you made a forecast for this year?

- Sure. Astrologically new Year will come in March. I know for sure that the first half of the year will be very tired, tired, I really have a lot of work. So far, the circumstances are just like that. Now I am working on another book - love predictions for 2014. In my opinion, this edition will be a breakthrough. We are moving away from the standard signs of the zodiac. Everyone can find a forecast for themselves by date of birth. That is literally getting personal love horoscope... According to this book, armed with a ruler and a pencil, having mastered some tricks, a person himself will calculate a good day for himself for a date. Plus, I have a couple of other projects going on - I can't reveal all the secrets yet. So I understand where this tiredness I predicted will come from. I know that I will break down on loved ones, I will be so biliously cold and irritable. Also, my husband and I have the next one and a half years to somehow influence our daughter's studies, make her more independent, and increase interest in new knowledge.

- Do acquaintances often ask you to draw up a horoscope for them?

- Some time ago I noticed that 500 people want to be friends with me and this friendship consists in the fact that people call me once a week and ask for astrological advice. It was a constant exploitation of my brain and a waste of my time. And I changed the situation! Divided people into a close circle and the rest. Relatives (there are very few of them) from me can get whatever they want and when they want. I refuse to advise everyone else for free.

- We all talked about women's problems and problems. But, thank God, there are those who are doing well. Can you tell them what day is best to get married this year?

- It's good that we have passed the period magic dateslike 10.10.10 and 11.11.11. There will be no more such dates in the foreseeable future. By the way, in the past year, such a magic of numbers was insidious - those who got married on 12.12.12, alas, are most likely doomed to divorce. I can say for sure that in any year you shouldn't get married in May. This tradition is many thousands of years old. In the last month of spring, the sun passes through a star cluster that is astrologically associated with women's tears. Therefore, May is traditionally considered unlucky for weddings. You should also avoid getting married near eclipse dates. In 2013, a couple of eclipses will be in May, as well as April 25, October 18 and November 3. For those who want to get married, I would advise focusing on the days when Venus - the patroness of love - is strong. This time is from February 26 to March 22, from April 15 to April 20, from August 16 to September 11.

Vasilisa Volodina

A family: husband - Sergey; daughter - Victoria (11 years old)

Education: graduated from the State Academy of Management with a degree in economics-mathematician, the Moscow Academy of Astrology

Career: experience in astrology since 1992. She hosted the television program Starry Night with Vasilisa Volodina. Since 2008 - an expert and co-host of the Let's Get Married! Program. Head of Astrocenter Vasilisa Volodina. Author of the book Astrology of Seduction. Keys to a man's heart "

Astrologer, host of the show "Let's Get Married!" celebrates birthday. On April 16, she turned 43 years old. Vasilisa is a successful businesswoman, beloved wife and mother of two children. The editors of the site have collected vivid statements of Vasilisa from her interview with our portal and social networks and learned what lessons life had taught her.

The signs of fate exist

Each person has a different set of signals. If some people, situations are associated with something successful, rely on them as the correct signals. And vice versa. For example, since the days of the Roman Empire, it was believed that stumbling at the beginning of the path - bad sign, the path will not work. How many times have I seen that if a hero or heroine stumbled on the show "Let's get married!" when leaving the house, this participant was not selected.

You can't get hung up on men

From my own experience I know that women who do not die without men are in demand by them more often. A feverish search for a partner rarely yields a quality result. You need to ask yourself: what is the main goal I set for myself in life? If the answer is: to realize yourself as a person, then calmly pursue a career, not forgetting to meet with men in your free time, do not deny yourself this pleasure, but do not focus on it.

Everyone has bad moments

It rains all weekend, and the sun peeps out only on Monday ... The erotic scene in the film arises exactly when your 6-year-old child enters. Yegor Creed walks by exactly the second that you bent down to tie a sneaker (all the friends managed to scream and take a selfie, but you didn't). And a gorgeous cake at a party is brought when you stand dressed in the doorway and are forced to leave. Do you know something like that? Sometimes we get worse time than those around us. Sometimes we suffer from the imperfections of this time along with them.

Patience is not always good

Ideal relationships, of course, do not exist, but there are also nightmarish, unbearable, dangerous ones that you simply do not need to endure. Because they can end and often end in death, this is exactly the case, do not close your eyes. Even if physically everyone survives, it is impossible to preserve oneself as a living soul in such a situation. It kills the person in the person, normal, complete and healthy. If you endure in a violent situation, you are killing yourself and your children. Do not console yourself with the false "children should have a father", I would add "normal" to this phrase. Children should have life, this is the most important thing, and their mother is alive and healthy. Nothing else matters.

Different views do not interfere with love

Vasilisa with her husband Sergey

There are marriages (I'm not talking about materially oriented ones) in which it is enough for the partner that he loves himself. Or a person needs understanding in certain issues, but he does not expect total unanimity. For example, my husband and I do not quite agree in political views and sometimes we clash with each other. Seryozha has his own arguments, and weighty ones, I have my own. But this is definitely not decisive in our relationship. Therefore, the question here is what exactly you are not being heard. If in everything - it's sad.

Sometimes the result depends on the speed

If something doesn't work out in life, things don't go uphill, the necessary ideas are not found, but necessary people run up, think not only about what has been done or not done to achieve the goal, but about how quickly, how intensively you have moved so far. Failures can be attributed to an evil accident, but better analyzed. We are used to repeating that quality does not happen quickly, and we often remember this when we are too lazy to get up from the couch. But the quality of the effort does not always compensate for the slowness. Imagine an attentive and careful dentist who puts a filling so carefully and scrupulously for a long time that the anesthesia has already left and the client is spinning in the chair in pain. The dressmaker who made you a gorgeous dress a week after prom. A taxi driver who, observing all the rules, takes you through traffic jams to the plane that has already flown away without overtaking ... Start throwing coal into the furnace more actively, otherwise life itself will throw you off the train.

Eliminate the conflict quietly

Conflicts happen in any team, in any family. It is foolish to say otherwise. The state of "war" and "peace" in a relationship alternates, creating roughness and forcing to work on oneself and a partner. If the balance tends towards "war" all the time, it is difficult, although directors love to shoot a movie about this. But if there were no roughnesses, outbursts, clarifications, conflicts at all, life would not be as full as after meaningful reconciliation. As a result of a correctly played out conflict, relations improve, and partners grow. But “right” to eliminate a conflict of interest does not in any way rhyme with “stormy”. More often it is precisely "quiet", "meaningful", "calm" and "planned".

Personal beauty calendar saves

Most live like? An encouraging figure appeared on the thermometer, I wanted to undress, but then my shoulders and face did not tan, I did not reach the course of massages, I didn’t remove moles, I didn’t work with veins, I was afraid of injections, I didn’t have time to get to the hairdresser, I forgot about depilation and pedicure in winter. ... And an emergency appointment begins to all the specialists in the world at once, where, besides you, crowds of people who have forgotten, who have hammered, who are afraid and who have not had time are bursting. I'm not talking about myself. I do everything according to my personal schedule, which is called "Personal astrological beauty calendar" and I can't get enough of it.

How should you look and behave so that your man doesn't even have a thought about another woman? How to be happy in marriage, and how to meet your soul mate? He tells about this and many other thingsprofessional astrologer, co-host of the popular Let's Get Married program, astropsychologist Vasilisa Volodina. "Even if a man himself cannot say with certainty what kind of woman he needs, the stars will tell you all about it to the smallest detail," she says.

Do they need smart and beautiful?

There are plenty of examples around when men put their lives at the feet of not the most beautiful and smart women, sometimes live with outright bitches, but ... love them, not at all trying to change their existence. Any woman has a friend or acquaintance with her own bouquet of the same type of stories, where each of the women tyrannized him or played the role of a victim, whom he constantly cheated. There are also lovers of frivolous fools, and the eternally rejected admirers of inaccessible ladies ...

Relationships like this to friends and family seem to be unfortunate. And for the man himself, they are valuable and correct, from the point of view of true needs. And most importantly, he loves his "imperfect" girlfriend.

"Each man has his own image of the Ideal Lover, which he aspires to, often without realizing it. Ask any of them what it is." ideal woman", and a standard set of qualities will sound in response. Something like" smart, beautiful, not cool and not greedy for money ... "The details may differ, but the basic criteria for everyone will be approximately the same, - says Vasilisa Volodina. - They are dictated to a man mind, theoretical understanding of oneself and the world.

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In fact, a person is not guided only by reason in love and relationships. Passion is not born in thinking "yes, she is good-looking, sexy, smart, good for falling in love with her." On the contrary, at first a man likes a woman, falls in love or something deeper, and then he mentally collects arguments "for" and "against" - "she is good-looking, although she is harmful, demands gifts, is rude to my mother, but ... I really, really like , ready to follow her to the ends of the earth. "

"In general, a man does not choose his beloved by reason, not" common sense"A man falls in love, feels a woman of his own, obeying instincts, inner impulses, which he himself knows little about. These special instincts whisper to him - it is SHE that corresponds to your most secret aspirations ... By the way, this applies not only to men. The beautiful half of humanity falls in love in the same way. instinctively and no more intelligent.

By the age of 30, a man already understands what kind of women he is attracted to, and there are a couple of "fateful loves" behind him. But he is still familiar with his true needs only at the level of sensations and guesses. Almost unaware of them. Watch out for male reservations! Real desires break through in the accidentally dropped phrases "how I would like you to ...", and not in the thoughtful monologue "a normal woman should be ...".

Fortunately, these vague motives hardly change during a man's life - he is always "drawn" to women of the same type. Whatever friends our hero chooses in the past, there is definitely something that unites them all - appearance, manners, biography, temperament - common features.

That is, the man always "pulls" in the same direction, his internal needs are constant. "

Tips from astropsychologist Vasilisa Volodina:

— Asking him directly about which girl he dreams of is almost useless. As you should not, when visiting dating sites, take too seriously what is written in the "age" column for men. If you should visit dating sites at all. From an astrological point of view, only 7-10% of people have a chance to make a serious acquaintance via the Internet. Consider that up to 90% of Internet users are lying about their age.

- There are several ways to "conquer" him. A journey of trial and error - immediately start a life together with him, drawing conclusions already on the go and solving problems in relationships as they come. Even if you managed to bring a man to the registry office two months after they met, get ready in advance for a state of endless surprise after Mendelssohn's march. You will have to be amazed more often than to soar on the wings of love. And it will be difficult to satisfy the husband's unknown requests. A quick marriage is the fastest way to lose faith in men and in yourself.

Fortunately, most women act wisely: they give themselves and their beloved the opportunity to look around, get to know each other, live civil marriage, and then decide whether it is worth embarking on a life voyage together, giving birth to joint children. But here, too, danger lies in wait - she is already in love and is making plans for the future, but he has grown cold and is not ready for anything. And all because the woman laid the way to the heart of a man by touch and wandered in the wrong place.

I have repeatedly mentioned in my articles and interviews that getting married faster than 12 months from the date of acquaintance, a woman is at great risk. For 1 calendar year, the Sun makes a full cycle, passes through all the signs of the Zodiac. It is in 12 months from the moment of meeting that a new lover is able to show himself from all sides in most ordinary situations. In a year, you will definitely understand whether he is capable of being gentle and hammering nails, how he relates to professional duties and family meals, whether he has bouts of generosity or problems with potency.